Thursday, March 30, 2017

[FRIENDS] 3rd: Paragraf untuk Dhayika





One of those people I'm grateful to know.

It was approximately 6 years ago. Living in a boarding school makes the introvert me didnt get to know better friends outside. People I did chitchat everyday were just my roommate, my neighbor-mate, my 'sal'-mate, particularly just these friends who got to see me every dawn and every night.

But, who knows? It seemed like I'm not that strongly-introvert ones. Chances were always come. I'm not bragging out but yes, I was quite active in many school events, being part of committes. Day by day I started to talk with more non-dormy friends. But this friend I'm gonna tell you about is one the exceptions. As I remembered, I've never got a chance. I only knew her name, then matched that with the face. "Oh! So it's her!" She was that kind of quite-popular ones in our school. Intan (one of my dormy friend) also talked about her sometimes. 


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*Cailah gaya banget pake bahasa Inggris --'


Allah emang ga pernah kehabisan skenario tentang cara mendatangkan orang-orang baru di lingkaran kehidupan kita. Apakah dengan menempatkan kami berdua di kampus yang sama membuat kami otomatis bisa langsung ngobrol ngalor ngidur ngobrolin jodoh yang entah kapan datang serta perasaan-perasaan yang telah hambar? Nope. It took time.

I've never expected that eventually I get to know this buddy even more. And when I did, it was nothing but thankful.

Kira-kira September tahun lalu, aku bikin tulisan disini tentang seorang teman luar biasa yang kehidupannya lebih dari sekedar inspirasi, Puspita Alwi. Aku ngepost dia di instagram, numpang bikin caption super panjang di kosan orang yang akan dideskripsikan di postingan ini. Terus disaat lagi ngobrol-ngobrol itu, anak ini tiba-tiba bilang "Ngek, bikinin juga Dhayi tulisan kayak gini di blog Ngek ya. Ntar pas dhayi ulang tahun lah biar surprise!"

As I remembered, September tahun lalu itu kami memang sudah dekat. Tapi aku selalu punya alasan atas apa yang aku kerjakan. Apalagi perkara menceritakan seseorang di blog ini. I'm not saying I'm picky, but unconsciously aku mikir, seinspiratif/seberharga/se-precious apa sih seorang teman ini sehingga aku mau meluangkan satu dari sekian postingan di blog ini, didedikasikan untuk dia? 

And I should say. Saat itu aku belum punya alasan yang cukup. Untunglah dia melanjutkan dengan kata-kata "Ntar pas dhayi ulang tahun lah-". Okay. Time always heals and makes everything.

And Time, it really did its fate.


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Dia adalah seseorang yang.. terlihat selalu bahagia. Yang selalu punya bercandaan paling receh tapi bikin ketawa. Ketika kamu kelimpahan cinta dan kasih sayang dari orang paling dekat yang kamu punya di dunia, orang tua, then the only thing you know you should do is to share that love to other people. And yes, she did it. It's always fun everytime she told me about her parents who never got angry with her. Bagaimana orangtuanya seakan selalu 'menjaga', meng-'keep' perasaannya. It's quite unique I guess because I personally think that kind of people usually ended up being 'manja'. But this friend is exactly not one of those.

Dia adalah seseorang yang.. sangat menyenangkan. Dia selalu punya cara untuk dekat dengan orang disekitarnya, dengan orang dari latarbelakang berbeda, dengan orang dari pemahaman berbeda. Dia punya that kind of aura yang bikin orang disekitarnya itu merasa nyaman.

Kita pasti punya selingkupan orang-orang terdekat. Selanjutnya, kita punya lagi selingkupan orang yang lebih dekat, on another level. Selingkupan orang yang menjadi sasaran pertama disegala hal. Orang pertama yang tahu ini, orang pertama yang tahu itu. And this particular friend of mine, congratulation for joining this gold-circle of me! Congratulation for eventually being mentioned on this blog! Dia menjadi satu dari tiga teman terpenting dari tahapan hidup terkrisis dalam 21 tahun aku hidup, tahapan 'pencarian jati diri'. Dia adalah teman sesama penggemar top-five. What  is top-five? It's a vocabulary that only us know what it means. Dia adalah teman pertama yang aku hubungi saat Mbah meninggal dan aku harus segera take off ke Jawa di H-3 ujian. Dia adalah teman pertama yang tahu saat aku jatuh hati pada kebaikan 'seseorang'. Dia adalah satu-satunya teman yang menyaksikan percakapan via teleponku dengan 'seseorang' yang aku sudah berpisah 3 tahun dengannya. Dia adalah satu dari dua teman yang aku kirim email rahasia, yang yang hanya boleh dibuka kalau aku sudah cabut dari dunia ini nantinya. (Incase I live shorter than what I expected)

Dia adalah seseorang yang semoga aku bisa berteman baik dengannya selama di bumi hingga di Jannah nantinya. Dia adalah teman yang apabila aku tidak menemukannya di surga, selama Allah mengizinkan, aku akan pastikan untuk mencarinya. Semoga dia tetap menjadi dia yang saat ini, dan tidak akan pernah berubah melainkan kearah kebaikan.


I always believe that the greatest thing someone ever give was a their own writing. So with this late but sincere paragrapghs, I bring along this bunch of Du'a for you:

Oh Allah, may this year lets her get to know herself better and may it lets her to get to know her best friends and her family beter and may it makes strangers close friends. May she has just as many laugh as tears. May she smiles broadly everyday. May she learns from books and from movies and from family and friends and strangers and from simply living. May she learns every single moment something she didn't know before. May she not just hear, but listen. May she not just see, but observe. May she changes, for the better. May she gets a perfect ending in the hereafter and greets You in Your jannah later.

Aamiin.


To one of 'The Best of the Best'
Dhayika A. Besari







Sunday, March 26, 2017

[SELF HELP] Why God Allows Evil to Exist and Why Bad Things Happen to Good People



SOURCE : hawramani.com. 


Complete series of Self Helps :
2. [SELF HELP] Why God Allows Evil to Exist and Why Bad Things Happen to Good People

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(MUST-READ ESSAY!)


INTRODUCTION

There is a surprising amount of confusion among the religious, even among clerics and scholars, when it comes to understanding why evil exists and why God stands aside when so much suffering happens throughout the world. I’ve heard nothing but lame excuses and naive, illogical reasoning from them when they try to justify the existence of evil.

Most of us express wonder when we see some horrible catastrophe happen, or when we see evil individuals, companies and institutions wield so much power. Some people even go so far as to blame God for the evil things that exist in this world, since if God had desired, He could have prevented such things from existing or happening in the first place. Others take this even further, using the existence of evil as proof of God’s non-existence. How can a good and supposedly all-powerful God stand by while so much evil happens? Where is our God?

I cannot follow a self-contradictory, unpredictable and illogical God, which is what God is as taught by many teachers of religion. Since I do not fit the criteria for becoming an atheist (being intelligent enough to reject the incoherent religion taught by my parents and teachers, but not intelligent enough to fix these incoherences and find my own path to God), what I have done throughout my life is to go back to Scripture and re-invent God based on its teachings, getting rid of all the cultural baggage that has entered into common religious belief to go back to the focus of all religion: The Understanding and Worship of God.

There are good, perfectly logical explanations for these things, deep explanations that elucidate the purpose of this universe, our place in it, and our relationship with God, and through this give us perfectly good reasons for the existence of evil.


Why Evil Exists

What is the point of the existence of this world anyway? Many mistakenly think that the purpose of this world is to be a permanent residence where people judge whether God exists or not. They think that they can gauge God’s “level” of existence by the things that happen around them, so that given the right set of events, they will decide He is alive and active, and given others, they will decide He doesn’t exist, because if He existed, the world wouldn’t be the way it is.

A friend said that he once went on a trip abroad, and before he left, he asked God to protect three things that were most important to him in his life. During his trip, he lost all three, which included the dying of loved ones, and this made him decide that God doesn’t exist. He is a Buddhist now.

The above case is an example of earth-centric thinking, that considers this world a goal in itself. This is the core mistake that leads to millions of people misunderstanding, even disliking, God. That is a mistake because this world is nothing besides a testing hall where humans can freely choose to do as they like, to prove their worthiness of God’s approval or wrath. This world is not meant to be a permanent residence.

Most religions teach that an end of the world is coming. Regardless of religion, the universe is on track to become a dark, lifeless mass as the stars and galaxies die out. Everything is going to end, and what remains is the record of our deeds, kept by God. Even if we manage to create the greatest empire on earth, or write the most wonderful novel, none of our accomplishments will last.

One day the universe will shut down as if it never existed, and on that day what significance can our achievements have? This world is not meant as a permanent home of peace, but as a test. And a test requires that the possibility of failure should exist. If all humans acted according to God’s wishes, evil would not exist. But since God has given humans the freedom to disobey Him, they have the ability to do evil.

God is good, and evil is the absence of goodness, the same way that darkness is the absence of light. If God is Light, we cannot blame Him for the darkness we encounter when we turn away from Him, distance ourselves from Him, and act against His wishes.
Why didn’t God make the universe a place of wholesome goodness lacking in the possibility for evil? Because if evil could not exist, humans wouldn’t truly be free beings.
To be free, humans require the freedom to act against God along with the freedom to act for His sake. God wants to give humans perfect freedom to act and grow, so that they can be the best or the worst they want to be. Since humans have the freedom to act against God, and since to act against God is to create evil, humans have been given the freedom to create evil.

God did not make this world a perfect place because that is not its purpose. Imagine if you were a maker of creatures. If the creatures you made were controlled by their nature to do exactly what you put in them to do, they could never be truly your friends. They would be subservient robot-like machines that cannot help doing whatever you put in them to do.

But imagine if one day you wanted something more. You wanted to make creatures that could truly be your friends. The only way to have a true friend is to create a creature that can choose whether to be your friend or not. And so, you make creatures with free will, who can act according to whatever they wish, rather than according to your programming. Some of these creatures will choose to be your friends, others will ignore you, others will choose to be your enemies. They may fight among themselves, doing much evil to one another, and blaming you, their creator, for the evil they do, when in truth they should blame themselves, for they are the ones choosing to act the way they do. They have the freedom to be good, and many of them choose to be good, but some of them  choose to be evil instead.

The only thing we can blame God for is His creating us and giving us the freedom to be evil. This is a pointless blame. This is our reality and our fate, we cannot escape it. We have been thrown into this game regardless of our wishes, a game that forces us to choose to be either good or evil. We can debate the ethics of forcing people to choose between good and evil. But at the end of the day, we are forced to play this game. There is no dropping out.

( read this OR directly watch this )

Our Creator has done this to us, possibly against our will, but we cannot get hung up over this fact, because our future holds something very important: Either eternal reward, or eternal punishment. Blaming God will not help our future. It may make us feel better now to hate God as so many do, but by making us think badly of God, this will reduce our chances of future success. The future is coming whether we want it to or not, and we have the power to make it a good or a bad future.

Not all evil is done by humans. Droughts, floods and other natural disasters can cause much evil and suffering, and we can lose loved ones through car accidents and illnesses. Why doesn’t God prevent these things from happening if He loves us? Because, in order for the testing hall that is this world to be a true and consistent place of testing, God shouldn’t interfere with the functioning of nature. The laws of nature should behave in such a way that makes sense even without reference to God. If we were as intelligent as we are, and yet we saw that nothing bad ever happened on earth, no car accidents, no illnesses, nothing, that everyone died in old age of natural causes, then this would be undeniable evidence of the existence of a higher power that protects humans.

God wants us to have the possibility of being atheists. It is one of God’s self-imposed rules that it should be impossible to directly detect His existence. And that requires that the functioning of this world should make perfect sense according to predictable scientific laws.

God wants us to believe in Him without seeing Him or knowing that He truly exists, because if it were possible to prove His existence, it would reduce our freedom to act against Him. God wants our universe to seem to make perfect sense without any necessity for His existence. This way we are given the freedom to discover Him and His Scriptures, and through our knowledge and conscience, we gain the ability to either follow His way or disbelieve in Him. Once we are given this knowledge, there is no turning away from the choice between good and evil.

God wants our test to be a perfect test, in which we have perfect freedom to be good or evil. This would allow us to take credit for our actions. If God’s existence were proven, we’d be turned into slaves who cannot help but do as He says. We’d become merchants who act in our best interests by following God’s commandments. This is not what God wants. God wants us to be honored creatures who befriend Him not because we are forced to, but because we choose to. This is what gives worth to our friendship.

There is little honor in an employee acting according to his or her boss’s wishes, this is the expected behavior. While even this amount of obedience to a boss justifies reward, so that even if we had proof of God’s existence, we could still be rewarded for obeying Him, God wants to take us beyond this boss-employee relationship. He wants to raise us to the status of honored friends, who act out of love and friendship, and out of our own efforts toward remembrance of God, rather than acting out of practical compulsion.

God wants us to be the servant who continues to love and serve his master, even though the master goes away for years, decades. What incredible honor and reward can await such a servant who faithfully loves and serves his absent master for 50 or 60 years, until he dies, even though the master never returns?

God, by creating the possibility for the existence of true friendship between Himself and the humans He created, had to also create the possibility for the existence of true enmity between Himself and them. He wanted friends, but He knew that they couldn’t truly be called friends unless they had the option to be His enemies.

The evil done by humans on Earth is a doing of humans when they act against God, it is not a doing of God, therefore humans should be blamed, not God. And the evil done by nature is nature’s own doing, caused by the rules of physics, and God does not want to interfere with it because constant interference with nature would cause His existence to become apparent. It is necessary for disasters and accidents to be possible, as these prove to us the validity of nature’s rules, and allows the atheist the freedom to use these to prove that God doesn’t exist.

God and Nature shall always be apart, or seem to be apart, so that each one appears to function without the other. This is necessary, as this is what enables humans the freedom to choose between faith and disbelief, between good and evil. The world needs to make perfect, logical sense without having to refer to God in our thinking. It should be possible for us to believe that the world functions on its own without anything supernatural existing, this is what gives us the freedom to believe and disbelieve in God.

We need to be able to believe that the Master is absent. This is when the true nature of the servant comes through. Bad servants start to misbehave as soon as the Master looks away, and if the Master is away long enough, they entirely give up serving Him. They will start to loot His property and defile His name. But the good and honorable servant, even as he sees all of this happen, continues to have love and loyalty toward his Master. It makes no difference to him even if the Master never comes back. He keeps the remembrance of his Master in his heart, and he admonishes and encourages himself to continue to be the best servant he can be.

The world, the way it is, gives us the perfect opportunity to be this honorable and admirable servant. If evil did not exist, and if bad things did not happen, then there would have been no way for such servants of God to exist. We’d instead all be lowly and menial servants who never had a chance to disobey, and thus never had a chance to prove our loyalty toward God.

A world without evil and disaster would be a dysfunctional testing hall that cannot differentiate between the best and the worst of us. Without evil and disaster, God’s existence would be so clearly visible to us that most of us would cower in front of Him. A few people might be found who are daring enough to disobey God even in such circumstances, but the majority of people would kneel before God as they would before a great emperor, regardless of whether they had any loyalty toward Him.

A world that seems to be ruled by the cold, harsh laws of nature, and that completely hides the existence of God from our eyes, gives us the perfect opportunity to prove our loyalty to God. This world, with all of its problems, is the perfect testing hall that, because of the problems it has.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

[DAILY LIFE] 'Fighting' The Angel of Death

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SOURCE : Instagram account @jd.moha


Tidak ada yang jauh lebih pengertian, tidak ada yang jauh lebih baik, selain Pencipta kita sendiri.

Allah.


Aku udah lama follow akun seseorang yang foto-fotonya ada dibawah ini. Tapi baru hari ini aku sengaja baca semua captionnya. Dan... i've never found someone yang... such an inspiring human being! Namanya Mohammad JD. Dia adalah seorang humanitarian, volunteer, relawan, part of SAMS (Syrian American Medical Society), dan lain-lainnya. Dia juga adalah anak dari seorang refugees. Kalo ga salah dia ini campuran Palestine-American. Awalnya aku kira dia dokter, ternyata dia nurse. Kehidupannya sehari-hari? Helping those refugees. Kadang langsung terjun ke perbatasan dekat syria, kadang di bagian negara yang lain, kadang di rumah sakit refugees di California. Intinya ya itu, menolong para refugees. 'Fighting' The Angel of Death. Agar mereka tetap hidup dan bisa merasakan kehidupan. 

Lewat tulisan ini, aku akan merangkum some of his great photos & captions yang sangat sangat membantu untuk mengingatkan kita bahwa kita tidak punya hak untuk mengeluh. Tidak punya hak untuk ga bersyukur. Instead we shall treasure every second, every moment, every process, and be grateful..


I strongly suggest you to read this till the end.

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REFUGEE'S LIFE

They call me "The Pulse" of refugee camps. They don't know that they are the heart and blood supply to each beat...
Having come back from taking a dying refugee boy to a hospital in Switzerland as well as speaking at the European parliament in Belgium regarding the #refugeecrisis, I find myself at this moment feeling a bit lost. Happy that we got one boy and his family out, but sad that there are thousands of others just like him stuck in the middle of nowhere all around the world. Politicians debate over innocent people without a damn clue to the daily struggles these people face. No education, proper nutrition, or shelter for children, pregnant women, and elderly. The many cold winter nights spent in a tent without any access to heat. Many mornings without breakfast and many evenings without dinner.. Many sick days without medication and many lonely days without company.... It's just no way to live. The children are starving and you would NEVER accept this for your child, but turn a blind eye when it happens to others? 
I promise that I will never forget those who think they have been forgotten. I promise that the whole world is going to know what these eyes have seen.....

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Mr. Trump,
Let me tell you a little about me and what I've been up to lately here in America. I'm a product of a #refugee father, and an #immigrant mother. What has been going on in America has hurt me deeply. This country was built on immigrants and children of immigrants. If it were not for its doors being open to my parents, I would not be here. I recognize this fully and I give back to the people of this country with passion, compassion, and hard work. I've gone many nights without sleep in this rescue truck helping save American lives. I've put my life on the line numerous times for others. I have injured myself on the job and it was all for others. Many instances, I've put in 24...48... and even 72 hours non stop for the people of this country, fielding calls at 2am and picking up trauma calls all over Chicago and the rest of illinois. The #muslimban is unconstitutional on so many levels. These people are fleeing war and murder. These people are here for a second chance. A second chance you are shutting the door on. There are many out there waiting to create a new life here just like my parents had done with me, giving me a chance to succeed and make an impact in America. These refugees want to do the same thing I'm doing and more. So welcome them in for open hearts. I promise you, their impact will echo loud and in a very positive way. I promise that they and WE WILL shine... shine.... shine!! Into the light!!!




To all the strong, powerful and beautiful women out there, keep pushing! Keep motivating men to be better and to do better. This is strength. This is resilience. 
This is a portrait of Sky Bird Black Owl. The first woman to give birth at the Standing Rock resistance camp in Cannon Ball, ND. She named her baby "Mni Wiconi" which means "water is life".




"My friend! My friend!!" Smiling and laughing trying to grab my attention as I walk to the clinic thinking I was a foreigner who did not speak their language (Arabic). This picture strikes me every time I look at it because these six kids could of been in the back of that ambulance just like that little boy last week who's photo shook the world. Kids.. They have a way with making even the most terrible situations easy... I see hope in this picture. I see resilience in this picture. I see courage and no fear in this picture. Children have a beautiful way of showing us what humanity is all about. Once again, this is my reminder to everyone who thinks they have it bad, to take a look at the other side of the waters.... Hug your children and loved ones, because the only difference between them and us is plain simple: They were born with a Syrian passport, an Iraqi passport, etc.. and we were not... I consider myself lucky and you as the reader should too. Having a bad day or know someone who is? I hope this cheers you and them up, because looking at it cheers me up and puts a smile on my face. I'm #palestinian
But these people are blood and family to me. Feel free to share this message and share their struggle. 

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Children are the biggest victims of war in my opinion.. Over 3.7 million children were born into the conflict that is happening in Syria till this day. Thousands have died in between. You try to do the best you can to make them forget about the horror they have seen. Here I find myself showing them how big our ambulances are back in the states. Many of these children were not vaccinated, severely malnourished, and had no formal education over the past couple of years. It's truly a sad situation that you would never want for your kids. I've looked father's in the eyes and wiped tears off of their faces because they felt like failures when they looked at what has happend with their families and with their kids. It was truly heart breaking... People need to know what's going on with the rest of the world. Over 7 million refugees are stuck in Turkey, Jordan, Lebanon, and scattered all accross Europe. Raising awareness and being aware of the situation is truly the first step. Action is the second! Spread the word.

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I told myself that I was NOT going to post pictures like this (I did not know this was taken of me when all of the kids approached me till it was showed to me later) BUT I hope this sheds some light on the Syrian refugee crisis situation. Today was day 1 for me in the Refugee camp at Idomeni aka "Europe's catastrophe" ... With the men, you feel a sense of sadness, and a sense of lost hope... Lost hope that they won't be able to provide for their families as they once use to.. Lost hope that their kids won't get the education they deserve.. To the extremes, lost hope of a future... With the women and mothers.. I felt a sense of strength.. THEY knew they needed to be strong to hold everybody in the family together.. They stand tall despite the struggles. With the kids... The kids had the most beautiful smiles that I have ever seen. They radiated energy and hope throughout the camp... The smiles that were badly needed because the situation is so severe.. More than I had imagined... It seems to be tense and changing day by day with the Macedonia borders closing, which ultimately forced many refugees to be stuck in Greece. Throughout all of this, there was an intense raw feeling of watching humans fight to survive.. Humans beings that just wanted to live another day.... The situation is sad, and everyone is trying to remain hopeful. Only time will tell...


Monday, March 20, 2017

[RESEP] Cumi Bakar Pedas Manis


Ga nyangka akhirnya segmen "Resep" ini ada jugak.


Alhamdulillah, akhirnya manusia pemilik blog ini berhasil juga 'menciptakan' sesuatu yang bisa dimakan, setelah sekian lama hanya berputar di lingkaran setan: telur dadar - mata sapi - tahu - tempe - bakso - dadar - dan seterusnya :"

Berhubung dari sekian percobaan masak-masak, ini adalah yang terberhasil dan terenak (padahal resepnya juga nyontek di Cookpad pun -_-), jadi aku ingin berbagi cara bikinnya. Selamat mencoba :D


WHAT YOU NEED :

500 gr cumi
1 buah jeruk nipis
secukupnya air

2 sdm kecap manis
1 sdm saus tiram
secukupnya garam
2 lbr daun jeruk

bumbu halus :
5 siung bawang merah
3 siung bawang putih
5 buah cabe merah (ini opsional jumlahnya sesuai selera, mau ditambah cabe ijo juga bisa)

Oiya, namanya juga masak, ini berlaku kelipatan ya. Misalnya kalo kamu mau masak cuminya 1kg, ya berarti jumlah bahannya jadi 2 kalinya.

Terus buat yang soo precise dengan takaran memasak, bisa lihat disini --> Ukuran Takaran untuk Memasak


WHAT TO DO :

1. Bersihkan cumi. Buang tinta, mata, tulang, lendir-lendir, dan kulit yang merahnya itu. Pokoknya badan cuminya jadi putih bersih. Lalu dipotong, sesuai selera bentuknya mau kayak gimana.

2. Rendam cumi dengan air secukupnya. Tambah perasan air jeruk nipis. Lalu jeruk nipis yang udah abis airnya ini (ampasnya) juga ikut direndam bareng cuminya. Diamkan sekitar 20 menit. Lalu bilas. --> ini gunanya buat ngilangin amisnya.

3. Bikin bumbu halusnya. Bisa di ulek, atau kalo mager juga bisa diblender. Aku udah coba dua-duanya, mau diulek/diblender hasilnya sama-sama enak/harum kok.

4. Tumis bumbu halus sampai harum. Lalu masukkan kecap, saus tiram, garam, dan daun jeruk (oiya daun jeruknya diiris kecil-kecil). Sampai kira-kira udah mateng, icip rasanya. Kalo udah pas, matikan api.

5. Masukkan cumi yang udah dibilas tadi. Aduk sampai rata. Diamkan sekitar 30 menit.

6. Siapkan teflon. Panaskan sebentar, lalu letakkan cumi diatas teflon. Atur posisinya supaya cuminya ga ada yang bertumpuk. Dibaluri juga sama bumbu tadi secukupnya (ga usah kebanyakan nanti jadinya berkuah). Panggang sekitar 6 menit (pas udah 4 menit cek cuminya, dibalik/diaduk). Jangan lebih 6 menit ya ntar cuminya jadi alot.

7. Selesaaaaai :)

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Oiya buat pemula yang baru 'menginjakkan kakinya' di dapur, kalo mau masak tapi bingung mau cari resep yang lebih 'trusted' dimana, just buka Cookpad. Aplikasinya juga ada di playstore jadi bisa di donlot, cuma buat nge-aksesnya emang tetap perlu hidupin paket/wifi. Ntar di kolom search-nya tinggal ketik mau bikin apa, terus keluar dah, seabrek resepnya. Mulai dari ibu-ibu housewife yang udah expert masak sampai pemula macam aku ini ada di cookpad. Jadi tinggal pilih. Kalo aku nih biasanya, milih resep yang keterangannya lebih trusted gitu, misalnya yang udah dipuji sama suaminya, atau yang udah jadi makanan legend di keluarganya, kayak gini :



Wkwkw. Yak. Jadi itu tipsnya. Semoga segmen ini bisa bertambah lagi isinya kedepannya. Aamiin :D
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Thursday, March 16, 2017

[SELF HELP] Kamu itu.. siapa?


Is there anyone here who's being fed up to be alive?



Complete series of Self Helps :
1. [SELF HELP] Kamu itu.. siapa?

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Reborn itu kalo dilihat di kamus artinya 'terlahir kembali'. Menjadi seseorang yang 'baru'. Menjadi seorang manusia yang lebih ter-upgrade dan ter-update lahir-batinnya. Yang sebelumnya melalui serangkaian proses yang bervariasi panjangnya, bervariasi awal mulanya, bervariasi niatnya, tapi semoga tetap satu tujuan akhirnya. Menjadi manusia yang lebih manusia.

As a MOSLEM, in the first place.

I ended up menuliskan ini karna it looks like I've been hit by some stones that make ask myself, aku itu sebenarnya siapa?

Aku adalah C. Aku adalah anak dari si A dan si B. Aku lahir tahun xxxx disebuah rumah sakit disebuah kota di negara X. Kemudian aku menjalani kehidupan seperti orang pada umumnya. Menjalani masa bayi dan balita dengan belajar the most basic things in life, like cara bergerak, cara membaca, cara mengenali orang, cara makan, dan cara-cara lainnya, dalam arti harfiah. Lalu menjalani pendidikan. Sekolah, kata orang. Dua belas tahun. Dengan indikator kesuksesan yang diminta adalah nilai yang tinggi dan masuk perguruan tinggi terbaik. Kemudian lulus dengan hasil yang sememuaskan mungkin, dengan predikat semembanggakan mungkin. Orang-orang disekitar sebagiannya ada yang berpengaruh signifikan ke lingkungannya, sebagiannya lagi antisosial, sebagiannya lagi tidak punya pijakan dan gampang terbawa arus. 

Nulisnya aja udah membosankan. Apalagi ngejalaninnya. Membosankan, kalau kamu kena satu perkara.

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Oke. Setelah semua kebosanan dan kelelahan ini, akan pasti datang suatu titik dimana status sosialku akan hilang, tinggal nama. Mati. Lalu apa? Pilihannya cuma dua. Bahkan sejak dari masih hidup di dunia dulu, opsi pilihan itu selalu cuma dua. Ya atau tidak. Baik atau buruk. Positif atau negatif. Neraka atau surga. Allah ga nyiapin opsi ketiga buat orang-orang yang dengan ringannya ngomong "aku tak sanggup di neraka-Mu, namun juga tak pantas disurga-Mu".

Setelah mati itulah, setelah ketiadaan wujud kita di dunia itulah, kita baru ingat siapa kita sebenarnya, dan kenapa kita tercipta sebagai 'siapa' itu.

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Aku. Aku sudah berkali-kali mengeluh, menggerutu, dengan masalah ini-itu. Hidup itu capek banget. Jadi aku ga mau nanti mati juga capek. Ah, masih mending capek kayaknya. Kalo sakit karna disiksa gimana? Udahlah di dunia ngeluh, pas mati juga ngeluh. Apa asiknya kalo gitu? Dimana letak 'istirahat dengan tenang' nya kalo gitu?

Jadi bermula dari situ, aku mulai berpikir. Aku mau mati enak. Aku mau pulang yang sebenar-benar pulang. Apa sih yang kalo kita lakuin setelah selesai rutinitas dan pulang ke rumah? Istirahat. Ngelonjor-lonjor kaki. Golek-golekan di kasur. Enak banget. Aku juga pengen nanti setelah mati bisa golek-golekan di dalem tanah itu. Ngelonjor-lonjorin kaki. Tapi emangnya ada yang mati kayak gitu?

Ada ga orang yang mati tanpa membawa dosa? Ada. Orang yang mati setelah ia taubat nasuha misalnya.

Iya kalo pas kebetulan abis taubat, terus 'dijemput'. Coba kalo 'dijemput'nya pas lagi asik karoke? Main uno? Lagi pacaran?


Trus ntah gimana ceritanya, ujung-ujungnya sampai ke pertanyaan: kenapa ya aku ditakdirkan jadi manusia?

Ini pertanyaan stupid banget ga sih. Pertanyaan orang ga berilmu. Tapi ternyata pertanyaan receh kayak gini tu tetep dijawab oleh-Nya, dan ternyata ada jawabannya!

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"Way before God decided to create this entire universe, before He decided to put human being, before He decided to descend Prophet Muhammad PBUH or Adam and Eve, way before He even planned doing any of this, He knew, the end result of it. He knows, in the end He will be disappointed by certain people, and He will throw them to the hell fire. He knows that they will be burning. He knows they'll be tortured and that's where they're gonna be repenting for what they've done. Way before He create the entire universe, He knows that the outcome is gonna be bad. It maybe good for certain people who are in heaven. But He knows that He can save those people from being in hell. In simple way, How can God be so sadistic that He would actually go ahead with the plan which He knows it's gonna end up in that matter?"


Kutipan diatas adalah pertanyaan dari seseorang yang berada di midline antara atheist dan agnostic, yang mengajukan pertanyaan tersebut ke dr. Zakir Naik. Dan yang mengerikannya, aku yang katanya beragama ini juga penasaran sama jawabannya.

Guess what, jawabannya apa? Aku nonton video ini udah lama, tahun lalu, tapi aku munculkan sekarang disini karena baru nyadar ini sangat krusial dan penting, apalagi as a moslem. Jawabannya mungkin ga akan se-spektakuler yang dikira, tapi IMHO sangat berat. Berat banget. Diskusinya panjang, jadi aku akan tulis dengan bahasaku sendiri.

"Kenapa sih dari sekian banyak ciptaan-Nya, kita malah menjadi manusia? 
Nyatanya, dulu, dulu sekali, kita pernah ditanya. "Kamu mau gak jadi manusia? Manusia adalah ciptaan-Ku yang paling sempurna. Mereka diberi free will, mereka bebas memilih. Kalau kamu taat, kamu bisa lebih tinggi dari para malaikat dan bidadari di Surga itu. Kalau kamu memilih untuk membangkang, maka kamu akan ditempatkan di tempat terendah." Intinya Allah sudah menjelaskan semuanya. Dan bertanya kepada kita. Dan kita telah menjawab bahwa kita ingin menjadi manusia. Kemudian ingatan itu dihapuskan. Kita dibuat lupa kalau kita pernah ditanya demikian. Karna, sebagai makhluk yang bisa 'memilih', Allah ingin menguji kita, dengan segala kehidupan dunia yang penuh godaan ini, apakah kita masih taat pada-Nya? Disaat kita tidak seperti malaikat yang tidak punya nafsu, tidak punya free will, dan senantiasa beribadah pada-Nya; apakah kita juga demikian? Setelah dulu kita dengan bodohnya menjawab ingin menjadi manusia?
Dengan probabilitas pasti punya dosa? Dengan resiko terburuk yaitu masuk neraka? Coba pikir lagi. Dari semua ciptaan-Nya, cuma golongan dari jin dan manusia loh yang akan mengisi neraka itu nanti!"

Penjelasan lengkapnya bisa cek video ini: 

Dari situ aku mulai berpikir. Allah menciptakan ciptaan-Nya tidak lain agar beribadah kepada-Nya. It doesn't mean Allah butuh ibadah kita, Allah butuh ketaatan kita, nope! Ciptaan-Nya yang butuh Allah dan ibadah-ibadah itulah sarana kita mendekat pada-Nya. Seluruh ciptaan-Nya tunduk pada-Nya dengan 'sempurna', kecuali yang dua ini. Iblis dan manusia.


Siapa banget kita? Yang dengan kebebasan free will ini memilih untuk ga solat? Ga taat? Yang padahal, setelah memutuskan untuk jadi manusia pun, ditambah lagi nikmatnya oleh Allah dengan membuat kita lahir di keluarga muslim? Islam dari lahir? Ibaratnya tuh, kita ga perlu capek-capek lagi 'mencari' Allah karna kita sudah dititipkan ke keluarga yang akan mengenalkan kita dengan Allah itu sendiri. Coba kalo kita terlahir di keluarga non-muslim, gak semuanya yang akhirnya akan kenal dengan Allah, justru menyembah yang lain.

(Kalau ada yang bertanya, lah kalo gitu gak adil dong? Allah yang membuat dia terlahir di keluarga non muslim, dan bukannya non muslim itu ended up di neraka, itu gak fair dong? 
Nope. Once again, siapa kita? Yang dengan gampangnya menuding si A yang non muslim akan masuk neraka dan si B yang muslim akan masuk surga?
Berhubung jawabannya panjang, jadi bisa dicek di video ini jawabannya: Are All Non-Muslims Going To Hell? )

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Biasanya usia-usia 20an awal ini rentan dengan pertanyaan deep seperti itu. Kamu hidup untuk apa? Apa hakikatnya kamu ada disini? Pertanyaan yang mau gak mau, kamu cari jawabannya. And as a 'moslem', sebagai orang yang sudah diberi nikmat kenal dengan Islam, sampat titik ini aku rasa penjelasan diatas adalah jawaban terbaik. Ketika para ustadz bilang, "Islam itu sendiri sudah jadi nikmat yang luar biasa bagi kita", sekarang aku baru paham maksudnya. Ketika kita udah disodorin sama Islam itu sendiri, ga perlu diskusi/debat/cari-cari lagi. Kalau mensyukuri islamnya kita itu saja terasa susah, then read this quote, 'if you have nothing to be grateful, look for your pulse'. Seburuk apapun nasib kita, kita masih punya satu nikmat yang selalu disesali oleh orang-orang yang sudah 'pulang' duluan. Nikmat waktu. Nikmat hidup. Kita masih hidup loh. Masih bisa taubat dan taubatnya masih diterima! Istighfarnya masih diterima! 


Aku pernah baca tulisannya @hanadiningsih di Steller dan dia bilang gini:


Paradoxically, we could only figure out the right way to live when we're ready to face death. How so?Because when we prepare to live well, we're just gonna hold on to worldly things. We're literally after everything.When we prepare to die well, we will have been set already to live our whole live on track. It's like aiming further targets.

Penjelasannya udah panjang yha. Sekarang ayo ke kesimpulan:

--> ternyata kita pernah ditanya, dan kita teteup jawab pengen jadi manusia 
--> kemudian ingatan ini dihapuskan, kita dibikin lupa
--> lalu sebagai manusia, makhluknya yang punya free will, bebas milih, bebas mau ngapain, kita ditempatkan di dunia
--> Allah berikan dunia dan seisinya, kesenangannya, juga kepayahannya
--> dengan semua faktor 'penggoda' itu, ditambah kitanya si manusia yang bebas milih, dan terlebih lagi punya hawa nafsu, Allah ingin menguji apakah kita masih tetep stay on track dijalan yang benar?
--> dunia ini 'sarana ujian', apakah kita manusia ini masih merasa butuh Tuhannya? apakah kita tetep menjalani kehidupan seperti apa yang udah diinginkan dulu "menjadi manusia bertaqwa yang derajatnya lebih baik dari bidadari surga"?
--> lalu atas waktu yang telah ditetapkan, tengg! Waktu ujian kita selesai, kita pergi dari dunia. Kita wafat.
--> Selamat datang di zona penyesalan! Karena penyesalan tidak hanya milik orang yang banyak dosa. Sahabat Rasulullah (aku lupa namanya) yang salah satu kebiasaannya saja sering berangkat ke mesjid yang notabene jauh dari rumahnya juga menyesal, "kenapa tidak lebih jauh?" (kenapa jarak mesjid dan rumahnya tidak lebih jauh sehingga reward yang ia dapat dari Allah bisa lebih besar)



If by chance kita ada di sisi perahu yang sama, bahasa gaulnya 'mencari jati diri' particularly sebagai seorang muslim, semoga ini ada manfaatnya. Semoga ini bisa menjadi lecutan untuk 'Reborn'. Menjadi manusia yang lebih baik dimata-Nya. Dan yang lebih penting setelah itu adalah, semoga kita bisa bertahan, bisa istiqamah dalam ketaatan, sampai nanti jatah waktu ujian kita ini selesai.


Keburukan itu timbul karena melakukan sesuatu yang salah atau tidak melakukan yang seharusnya dilakukan. Jika pada akhirnya di tulisan ini ada yang cacat atau lebih parahnya salah informasi, tell me dan aku akan cari perbaikannya. 


Fighting and assalamualaikum!